I’ve generally always kept to myself and was absolutely fine with all the alone time in the world. Now I think I’m going crazy. I’m having a hard time coping with everything that’s going on and what the future might hold. I only have my husband to talk with about it. I don’t feel like anyone else I talk to (which is very few) will understand. I know friends and family might take offense to that statement, but at this point I need someone who knows what I’m going through and can help me get to the next step. I need more than the conversations that just consist of “Oh that sucks, I’m sorry,” although I do greatly appreciate it when someone cares enough to listen to me.
Since we’ve moved to a new state, I’ve isolated myself even more than normal. I was already having worsening health at the time of the move and wasn’t looking forward to having to change jobs. I’ve had a hard time coping with cutting my hours and changing my work to fit me better. I have two jobs, a part time and a PRN. I had to fight with the occupational medicine doctor for weeks to get them to clear me. It’s all put me in a state of mind where I feel like I’m just going to be let go for my health at some point anyways. Even at my last doctor appointment it was mentioned that there was a possibility of having a “medically-induced” career change.
This has made it that much harder for me to make any connections with people here. The only time I leave the house other than the regular adult things is to go to work. At my part time job, the group I work with is pretty close knit and a lot older than me. My PRN job has some people my age with similar interests, but I want to quit that job so bad because I’m always in pain when I leave that I can’t get myself to try to socialize. This on top of being complete ate up with my health situation at the moment makes me a real bore to talk to.
In all honesty, I’m probably depressed. We already know my anxiety has been kicking in too. Any chance I take to talk to people about things usually ends up with them either blowing over what I said or them telling me something ridiculous like I need to stop the doctors everything. I’m afraid that my health is going to ruin my life. I was doing really well… I graduated college, got a well paying job, bought a new car and bought a house. Now I’ve been dialing back on pay and hours to be able to work without killing myself, which makes it more difficult to keep our heads above water on the financial front and we may not move back to Indiana where our house is.
I really dislike uncertainty and that’s about all I have at this point.
I like having clear plans. I like having executable lists. Other than going to the grocery store, I can’t implement that in my life anymore.
I desperately wish an excel sheet could give me all the answers… Or maybe I could find a peer that can understand me.